Gen 3:6 So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate.
You might ask me, "Why are you tripping back to the Adam and Eve story? You're supposed to be doing Abraham and Sarah!" And the answer is, in many ways it's the same story. And in many ways, it's different. The idea was given me as I listened to a pastor describing the Eve story, but I had missed the beginning. As he described the Eve story, pointing out that the deception was what Eve fell to, but the SIN was Adam's because he had been taught better- I was thinking, "Yes, that's exactly right- Abram knew better, and yet he went along with Sarai." And it was a mild shock when the pastor 'revealed' he was telling the earlier story.
So what story was I thinking of?
Gen 16:1 Now Sarai, Abram's wife, had borne him no children. She had a female Egyptian servant whose name was Hagar.
Gen 16:2 And Sarai said to Abram, “Behold now, the LORD has prevented me from bearing children. Go in to my servant; it may be that I shall obtain children by her.” And Abram listened to the voice of Sarai.
Abram had been told by God that he would be the father of many nations- that a son of his own flesh would be the bridge to that. And he had no doubt explained that to Sarai. Because Abram was the head, the 'priest', if you will, of his family of two; He was God's go-between on earth. And while God had told him the future plan, and he had told it to her, God didn't explicitly say, "from Sarai." God assumed Abram knew-
Gen 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Thus, what God said to one, applied to BOTH. Sarai, his wife, was to be that mother. But just like Eve, whose misinterpretation of what God told Adam gave her the 'loophole' to try the fruit, Sarai thought that leaving her name out was the loophole she needed to speed the Lord's plan up. Was this a sin? No, this was a cultural thing; Sarai had deceived herself that it didn't HAVE to be miraculous. And the man, the priest of the family?
...and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate.
....And Abram listened to the voice of Sarai.
Abram should have said, "No, but the Lord is not asking this thing..." just like Adam should have. And of course, in Adam and Eve's story, because Adam did not stand up for what he KNEW from God, things got a lot worse, for them and all of us. Same thing in Abram's story...
Gen 16:4 And he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, she looked with contempt on her mistress.
Gen 16:5 And Sarai said to Abram, “May the wrong done to me be on you! I gave my servant to your embrace, and when she saw that she had conceived, she looked on me with contempt. May the LORD judge between you and me!”
(Before I go on with Abram's story, let me connect something as a sidelight: How was Abram's mistake one that made things worse for ALL of us? Because the child Hagar bore was Ishmael, and because Abram would later pray that Ishmael would become a mighty nation, the Lord granted the request. Ishmael would become the Arab nations, the Arabs invented Islam... I think you see the point.)
Note that the reaction was much the same in the Abram story as it was in the Adam story- except that, with no Serpent in the picture (physically), Sarai blamed Abram. And Abram, did he not 'pass the buck' on to the woman?
Gen 16:6 But Abram said to Sarai, “Behold, your servant is in your power; do to her as you please.” Then Sarai dealt harshly with her, and she fled from her.
Once again, Abram copped out of the situation. But God wasn't about to let them escape the consequences:
Gen 16:7 The angel of the LORD found her by a spring of water in the wilderness, the spring on the way to Shur.
Gen 16:8 And he said, “Hagar, servant of Sarai, where have you come from and where are you going?” She said, “I am fleeing from my mistress Sarai.”
Gen 16:9 The angel of the LORD said to her, “Return to your mistress and submit to her.”
Thus, Abram and Sarai were forced to live with the fruit of their sin ever before them, at least for a time. And the chapter- Genesis 16, makes the point that Abram was now 86 years old. But chapter 17 begins-
Gen 17:1 When Abram was ninety-nine years old the LORD appeared to Abram...
Wow, what happened to those 13 years? I'll tell you.
Remember the old joke page that used to go around, the "Attaboy Award"? It praised all your hard work and dedication, and told you that collecting 1,000 of them would bring you fame, riches, etc. And in fine print on the bottom, it said:
Caution: One AWSHIT wipes out all collected Attaboys.
And so too with Abram. Remember way back at the beginning of our journey, I mentioned how the 13 years Abram wasted with his family in Haran would be repeated here? God had to start over to repair the damage Abram did to the Abraham He was building, starting with that 13 years.
So we really get three lessons from all this.
-First, The man of the family needs to be the "priest of the family", and not just go along with whatever seems convenient to the time. He needs to be faithful to God.
-Second, don't expect God's forgiveness, which He freely gives through Jesus, to include escaping the consequences of the sin.
-Third, If you ever want God to 'finish' building you in some area, STOP knocking down what He's building! Another lesson I need tattooed on my eyeballs.