Tuesday, January 24, 2017
So the battle continues.
So I got unfriended on FB. Why? Because, one night after reading an excellent article about Melania Trump, how hard she had to work to get where she is, the fact that she made Donald give her HIS number and made him wait a week before ever calling- the next day a friend commented on an idiotic meme (just love that about FB) that painted her as a golddigger. I merely commented "A tasteless meme to start the morning". Of course this led to a typical FB battle between me and this guy who posted it ( and others who agreed with me later on), who seemed to think his meme was "hilarious-and accurate." To which, with the caption, "Well here's a laugh riot", I replied:
My friend- at least someone that I considered a friend- stepped in to defend her friend. I responded, but put most of the effort into the battle with Mr. Judge-first. I first found it amusing that, jousting with me, he excused himself by being upset at her "misogynist, narcissistic" husband, which of course makes it acceptable to lie about the rest of his family. Later, as others pointed out the meme's sheer meanness, he excused himself by saying he didn't have an intrinsic problem with golddiggers, and was just "pointing out the facts." After I introduced Buzz and Woody to the conversation, I turned off notifications and bailed.
However, I PMed my friend, who'd been at her local version of the women's march, and asked how it was that she could go along with attacking another woman on such a shallow basis, and if the solidarity of women only applied to those she agreed with. Among the responses:
"...your judgmental, higher than thou attitude doesn't work for me..."
Closely followed, ironically, by this...
"...I judge the First Lady. She's pathetic and a sorry excuse of a role model...."
Oh, but that wasn't quite good enough. Witness...
"...Your racist views against Muslims really bother me too..."
Oh, would be the racist view that I don't particularly want to be KILLED by one?
So, now, let's count up. In explaining that I thought her and her buddy were judging someone without any facts, and wondering just why it is she would stand up for women- but only certain ones- I was labelled high and mighty, judgmental, racist, and was told I had no respect FOR HER. And yet...
"...But when others' perspectives differ from yours, and you resort to patronizing name-calling and labeling, I have to draw a clear line..."
Yep, and apparently she gets to be on one side of the line, and I get to be on the other.
I am sorry. Many of you know this person, and I don't ask for anyone to take sides here. But the thing I am sorry about is that someone who should have known me better than that, had to do what I expect from the typical FB troll- " patronizing, name-calling and labeling"- and then accused me of doing the same.
You see, this is why the majority of conservatives and the majority of liberals are never going to get along anymore. She gets to judge. She gets to label. And she gets to have her opinion heard, with no chance that the other person might just be right. THIS is not conversation- and THEY are not willing to have one.
I still hold out hope that this is not the way all liberals are. Because I know a select few of you that read this are liberals, and though we disagree, we have never quite come to this. And I appreciate you more than you know, because you show me we don't have to act like fricking idiots to each other.
But she is right about one thing- there is a line. Like I told her buddy (or it might have been her on the post), I will be polite to those who are polite to me. And I never insulted her friend (until I closed with the meme), despite her accusations. But I do have my moments and I'll admit to them.
One of them came right afterwards, when I liked another meme:
Which I could prolly justify a million different ways, but then I would be just like her buddy. I apologize to you all in FB land for hitting the laugh button on this. And I apologize right now to all of you out there like my friend whose politics makes up so much of their self-esteem that they can't see past it to look at how other people feel- because I'm coming for you...